Dispatches From Purity Culture or: We’re Really Bad at Talking About Sex

The guest speaker stands behind the podium. A clear pitcher of water sits on a stool at his side. Our youth group listens with rapt attention. The guest speaker is talking about sex. He invites three boys to the front and tells them to spit into the water pitcher. Like, really spit. To make it…

More Thoughts on Sex, Vulnerability, and Spirituality After Two Years of Marriage

We tend to fight when we travel. Which is unfortunate, because we really like to travel. I don't know if it's the accumulated stresses of hurtling through the sky in an aluminum tube at 28,000 feet, navigating the wonders of baggage claim, driving in an unfamiliar city, or simply finding a place where my gluten and…

Thoughts on Sex, Vulnerability, and Spirituality After a Year of Marriage

It's been a year since I've become one flesh with my wife. We married in a muggy parlor room in a historic home surrounded by friends and family after our wedding venue was flooded by a torrential downpour the day before our wedding. "And the two became one flesh" is one of the Bible's favorite…

Confessions of a DJ, or In Defense of the Wedding Dancefloor

By the time I inevitably sweep up the confetti mess from the dance floor on December 30th, I'll have DJed twenty-five weddings in 2016 through my little DJ company - including my own. I've been DJing weddings for four years, and during that time I've attended barn weddings, tent weddings, church weddings, house weddings, and…