We found ourselves in Iceland on our sixth wedding anniversary. It was our first "big" vacation in four years. Between moving to Colorado, buying a house, renovating said house, changing jobs, and the ongoing effects of the COVID-19 pandemic, international travel just wasn't in the cards (or, to be honest, the budget). However, at the…
The lead-up to our wedding day felt appropriately chaotic. Two days before we were slated to tie the knot, a "once-in-a-century" storm blew in and flooded the quaint forest wedding venue we had chosen to get married at before we were even engaged. The rain fell in thick torrents all day, submerging streets and burying…
Continue reading ➞ Reflections On Sex, Vulnerability, and Spirituality After Five Years of Marriage
Moved from Texas to Colorado.Started a new job.Purchased our first home.Global pandemic. If I could sum up our fourth year of marriage in one word, I'd undoubtedly land on the word change. That's not to say the previous three years weren't marked by significant shifts in circumstance, but Year Four upped the ante to an…
Continue reading ➞ New Thoughts on Sex, Vulnerability, and Spirituality After Four Years of Marriage
A few weeks into the new year, I found out I was being let go from my job. This wasn't the way I thought the year was supposed to go. Our third year of marriage was primed to be "The One Where They Buy a House." In fact, Shannon and I were set to meet…
The guest speaker stands behind the podium. A clear pitcher of water sits on a stool at his side. Our youth group listens with rapt attention. The guest speaker is talking about sex. He invites three boys to the front and tells them to spit into the water pitcher. Like, really spit. To make it…
Continue reading ➞ Dispatches From Purity Culture: How Sexual Shame Overtook a Generation
Trigger Warning: The following article contains graphic sexual content and intense depictions of sexual abuse. Reader discretion is strongly advised. However, none of the hyperlinked text links out to pornographic websites. In January 2017, PornHub - one of the largest online porn sites - released its annual Year In Review statistics. In 2016, PornHub used…
Continue reading ➞ Skin in the Game: The Feminist Case Against Pornography
It's been a year since I've become one flesh with my wife. We married in a muggy parlor room in a historic home surrounded by friends and family after our wedding venue was flooded by a torrential downpour the day before our wedding. "And the two became one flesh" is one of the Bible's favorite…
Continue reading ➞ Thoughts on Sex, Vulnerability, and Spirituality After a Year of Marriage
Instrument of Mercy 